I think curiosity is a path to wisdom, and I remain so curious about some of the behaviors of my Lola. Why is she so content on part of the walk not to pull…but seems to feel the need to pull the other part of the walk? Can it have something to do with her feeling safety with me and then remembering maybe she doesn’t completely trust me? Why does she want to go outside sometimes but won’t budge other times? Why does she want to lick me to death? Yes….I am VERY curious. Somehow I feel certain that my behavior towards her causes the reactions I see because of what she is feeling….
And, I have a confession to make . It seems she would always like to sleep on the bed with me and occasionally I let her, but the truth is I don’t sleep very well usually when I let her. At this point in my life, I very much need my sleep. Could my occasional giving in to what she wants cause her anxiety when she doesn’t get her way? Thank you Drew. I definitely am going to keep trying to figure things out.
She is so lucky to have somebody like you who’s so willing to ask the questions, put the ego aside and remain curious. There are no rules when it comes to go sleeping. They did some research, especially with people who live and sleep with service dogs and found out for the humans. People tend to fall asleep better when the dog was in the bed but had more regularly disrupted sleep so especially with kids who like to have the dogs close when they fell asleep. Caregivers were often advised to encourage the dog to come out of the bed after the child fell asleep. Likewise, the dog sleep was impacted by the person moving around, so both dogs and people got more quality sleep when they slept separately.
I always recommend people make time for cuddle and massage but keep the bed for sleeping separately. It tends to impact everyone better in the long run.
I think curiosity is a path to wisdom, and I remain so curious about some of the behaviors of my Lola. Why is she so content on part of the walk not to pull…but seems to feel the need to pull the other part of the walk? Can it have something to do with her feeling safety with me and then remembering maybe she doesn’t completely trust me? Why does she want to go outside sometimes but won’t budge other times? Why does she want to lick me to death? Yes….I am VERY curious. Somehow I feel certain that my behavior towards her causes the reactions I see because of what she is feeling….
And, I have a confession to make . It seems she would always like to sleep on the bed with me and occasionally I let her, but the truth is I don’t sleep very well usually when I let her. At this point in my life, I very much need my sleep. Could my occasional giving in to what she wants cause her anxiety when she doesn’t get her way? Thank you Drew. I definitely am going to keep trying to figure things out.
She is so lucky to have somebody like you who’s so willing to ask the questions, put the ego aside and remain curious. There are no rules when it comes to go sleeping. They did some research, especially with people who live and sleep with service dogs and found out for the humans. People tend to fall asleep better when the dog was in the bed but had more regularly disrupted sleep so especially with kids who like to have the dogs close when they fell asleep. Caregivers were often advised to encourage the dog to come out of the bed after the child fell asleep. Likewise, the dog sleep was impacted by the person moving around, so both dogs and people got more quality sleep when they slept separately.
I always recommend people make time for cuddle and massage but keep the bed for sleeping separately. It tends to impact everyone better in the long run.
Thank you and thank you for the advice about sleeping. I feel so much better about my decision.